10-steps-fight-infertility

There are some steps you can take if you want to get pregnant in a healthy way. These steps are completely natural and will help you live a healthy lifestyle while preparing to get pregnant.

The first step is to steer clear of toxins. Unfortunately, toxins can be found everywhere, in your water, food and even in your shampoos and soaps. It is impossible to avoid toxins completely but there are ways to decrease your exposure. You can start using organic or natural soaps and shampoos and other toiletries. You can also make sure to keep your air filters in your home changed every 30 days to keep toxins from building up in your home. Make sure you drink filtered water; natural spring water is recommended but if you cannot get it opt for filtered water. Choosing organic foods is another way to minimize the toxicity of your body; which brings me to step 2, diet.

Your diet is crucial! It is highly recommended that if you are trying to get pregnant or are a pregnant woman, you should up your consumption of fruits and vegetables to 3 to 4 servings per day. You should also be getting 3 servings of protein a day; which includes nuts, eggs, legumes, beans, and lean meats. 9 servings of whole grain bread, whole meal pasta, brown rice, and cereal. Experts say that it can take anywhere from 3 months to a year for your healthy changes in your diet to show up as benefits in your body and really increase your chances of getting pregnant. So it is recommended to change your diet at least 3 months before you begin trying to conceive for best results. It can take 3 months to 1 year for dietary changes in the body to take effect. You may have to change your diet as early as 3 months prior to getting pregnant.

Along with changes in your diet, it is important to add vitamins to your healthy eating habits to make sure you are getting all of the nutrients necessary for a healthy pregnancy that may be missed from just foods alone. If you are trying to or even thinking about getting pregnant, I am sure you have heard how important folic acid is for a healthy pregnancy and baby. You can take folic acid by itself, in addition to a multivitamin or you can receive folic acid through prenatal vitamins. One plus to taking prenatal vitamins is the strengthening of your hair and nails, which most women love!

The next step goes hand in hand with the previous and that is to make sure your body has enough minerals such as calcium and iron. Iron prevents anemia, helps the body produce adequate hemoglobin and enhances the chances for a full term pregnancy and healthy birth weight. Calcium while great for mommy's bones and teeth to support the pregnancy does the same for baby while bones and teeth are forming. Plus, calcium helps with nerve and muscle function and helps prevent blood clots, which is very important for mom during pregnancy.

The next step is to take notice of what else is going in your body, such as medications. For example, if you are currently taking ibuprofen or aspirin for aches, pains or headaches, it is recommended to switch over to acetaminophen or Tylenol. It is a good idea to find out from your doctor which medications are healthy for you to take and what you should avoid.

The next step is to try meditation, especially if you are stressed out. I truly believe that a major factor for infertility and miscarriages is stress. Meditation helps reduce stress and relaxes you are your body, which helps reduce stress hormones which restrict your body's production of fertility hormones.

Along with meditation you should also try the seventh step which is yoga. According to a study at the Harvard Medical School, yoga accompanied with meditation and a healthy diet helped 55% of infertile women conceive within a year of beginning the study. Doing yoga for 45 minutes to an hour a couple of times a week can also significantly reduce stress.

Of course yoga is a type of exercise it is a light exercise and can be incorporated with a steady exercise routine to keep your body healthy and reduce stress. Exercise also improves the circulation in your body, which, of course, increases the circulation in your reproduction system. A healthy exercise routine includes 40-60 minutes of exercise 3-5 days a week. The key is not to overdo it, which can actually decrease your fertility.

The ninth step to fight infertility is to make sure to get enough sleep. While you are sleeping your body is getting the rest it needs to function correctly. At the same time getting adequate sleep helps your body heal and refresh itself correctly and efficiently. One of the main factors that effects your sleep is caffeine, which brings me to the final step, consider your lifestyle.

When trying to get pregnant and even in your first trimester caffeine and other substances can be harmful. The first trimester is the most important and unfortunately, a lot of women don't find out they are pregnant until well into their first trimester. It is crucial to pay attention to your lifestyle and make some changes to it before you try to get pregnant. For example, it is a good idea to cut back drastically or even cut out caffeine completely. The same goes for smoking, alcohol, and recreational drugs. It is important to treat your body as if you are pregnant as soon as you discontinue the use of birth control or even start to consider getting pregnant.

These lifestyle changes along with the previous 9 steps are great natural and healthy ways to fight against infertility and raise your chances of conceiving. These ways are also less expensive than medical interventions which are a huge plus, considering you should be focusing on using that extra money for your new coming baby.

10-first-date-ideas-skinny-wallet

Being a human of the male variety, making a good first impression to the fairer sex is paramount if you want any type of dating relationship. Being a single dad, I got back into the dating world several months back. Now, with that being said, I don't always have the money for an expensive date but I still need to impress. Based on dates I've had, I have made a list of my best date ideas that leave your dignity and your budget intact.
1. Bowling. Bowling is always a great idea for a first date. It's fun; it's competitive; it's cheap; it provides time for conversation. You can even have fun by coming up with a creative and funny name on the score card. During my bowling date, my score card alias was Ben Dover and hers was Dixie Chic.

2. The Park. The park is usually free unless you go to a state or a national park. A park with a playground is preferable so you can show off doing a few pull-ups, as I did, or talk while on the swings, which I also did. Being at the park shows that you can be a kid at heart and she'll warm up to you.

3. Coffee Shop. Starbucks usually comes to mind when thinking of coffee. While most people enjoy at least one thing off of the Starbucks menu, a local coffee joint will impress her even more. Coffee provides an ideal environment for intimate conversation and two cups of coffee will never break the bank.

4. Live Music. Live music is always fun and, while you might not be able to talk as much, you'll have an opportunity to show her your wild side. I chose to take my date to a local music hall where a friend of mine was playing drums in his band and the cover was only $5 per person.

5. Paddle Boating. Renting paddle boats are a very inexpensive investment. Most people enjoy being on the water plus, in a paddle boat, you will be right beside your date.

6. Drive-In Movie. Most drive-ins are quite inexpensive plus you get to watch two movies and from the comfort of your own vehicle. The drive-in, in my opinion, is the best set up for a kiss on a first date. It was $6 per car the last time I went on a date to a drive-in and the food was super cheap, $1.50 burgers and $1.25 nachos to name two examples.

7. Comedy Club. A fairly cheap date that provides a lot of laughs and lightens the mood. You and your date can grab a bite to eat and have a laugh after the show. The only time I've been on a date to a comedy club was on amateur night which was great because the cover was less expensive. At $7, we laughed at the good comics and even harder at the bad ones.

8. Skating Rink. Skating is loads of fun. There is music and food and it's cheap especially during the week and not too much more on the weekends. When I took my date out to the skating rink I believe we were the only couple above the age of 15, but it was worth it for $4 per person and a kiss at the end.

9. A Beach Walk. A long walk on the beach has the scenic beauty and the tranquil setting. You and your date can pick up sea shells, get ice cream from a vendor cart, or just walk and talk. I don't live at the beach but I did work in Myrtle Beach one summer and had an evening walk on the beach for a date night.

10. Go Fishing. Whether you live near the ocean, a lake, or a local pond, fishing is always a great idea. The only thing you'd be paying for is bait and gas, if you go on a boat. I've been on two fishing dates, one on a lake and one on a pond. The date on the pond was fun, albeit embarrassing, because my date caught a small-mouth bass and I caught absolutely nothing.

From the examples I have given, it's safe to say that even without a lot of money, you can still have a decent first date. While these dates might not be for everyone, these are the experiences I've had and I hope it will assist those of you in need of ideas. Good luck.

10-causes-positive-pregnancy-test

If you've recently had a positive pregnancy test, you are almost certainly pregnant. Home pregnancy tests detect the hormone human chorionic gonadotropin, or hCG. In general, the human body produces detectable levels of this so-called pregnancy hormone only when a blastocyst has implanted into the wall of the uterus.
While false positives are rare, there are are many possible causes of a positive pregnancy test.

1. Pregnancy

By far the most common cause of a positive pregnancy test, pregnancy is usually detectable only after a fertilized egg has made it to the uterus. This generally occurs roughly two weeks after ovulation or four weeks after your last menstrual period.

2. Molar Pregnancy

Molar pregnancies are not viable and do not involve an actual embryo, but they cause a positive pregnancy test. Instead of forming the beginnings of a baby, the fertilized egg forms a fast-growing cluster of placenta cells. A molar pregnancy may mimic the early stages of a normal pregnancy, but there is no baby.

3. Ectopic Pregnancy

Like molar pregnancies, ectopic pregnancies are not viable. The fertilized egg implants in the fallopian tubes or another part of the body instead of the uterus. An ectopic pregnancy is a medical emergency; the blastocyst must be removed promptly to prevent the woman from suffering serious complications.

4. Recent Miscarriage

If you have had a miscarriage-- even a very early one-- within the last several days, your urine may still contain trace amoungs of hCG. Miscarriages that occur very early may seem identical to an ordinary menstrual period.

5. Certain Medications

Do not dismiss a false positive pregnancy test as the result of a painkiller, antidepressant, herbal supplement or blood pressure medication. While very few drugs can cause a false positive pregnancy test, it is important to tell your health care provider about any medications you do take. The "pregnancy hormone" hCG may be an ingredient in a few prescription fertility drugs.

6. Evaporation Lines

A few cheap pregnancy tests may display a false-positive result when moisture crosses the test. This will not cause a very clear positive result, but it can create a very faint grayish line where the test might have displayed a positive result. Retest if your results are ambiguous.

7. Waiting too Long

If you take a pregnancy test and don't look at it until several minutes later, it may display a false positive result. Be sure to read your test within 2-5 minutes (or whatever the manufacturer recommends) and disregard any results that appear after this time.

8. Invalid Test

If your pregnancy test is past your expiration date or has been exposed to extreme hot or cold, disregard the results. Do not use a pregnancy test that has, for example, sat in your car on a hot day. Re-test if you aren't sure about your results.

9. Choriocarcinoma

Choriocarcinoma is a serious, aggrsesive form of cancer affecting the placenta. It is usually preceded by a normal pregnancy, ectopic pregnancy, miscarriage or molar pregnancy. This disease is highly curable if it is detected early, so be sure to mention your false positive pregnancy test to a health care provider.

10. Other Tumors

Very rarely, a positive pregnancy test may be the first indication of a tumor in the ovaries, uterus or endometrium. The amount of hCG secreted by these tumors will vary dramatically depending on the type of tumor. If you have a family history of hormone-sensitive cancers, be sure to mention this to your obstetrician or midwife when you follow-up on the results of your test.

BabyHopes offers further information regarding the causes of a false pregnancy test.

10-12-things-wish-someone-would

1. At first, you're going to feel very lost and confused about EVERYTHING. Sometimes the vets will think that you understand everything (but you don't), it's okay. Just go with it and fake it, and ask a vet or someone who's been there longer.
2. You will get hurt. I'm no pro by any means, but if I had to guess I'd say that your tailbone will be the first to go. For some it's the knees, for me it was the elbow. Regardless, just accept the fact that you'll hurt something. But somehow you'll get better and your body will help you NOT hurt yourself- but that takes time.

3. When you think that you're in skater position, you can probably get lower. Do this. My first bout I THOUGHT that I was skating low and I kept getting knocked over. Once I squatted SO much lower than was comfortable for me: I wasn't getting knocked over anymore. This will also prevent some of those potential early injuries.

4. It will take you a LONG time to really grasp the logistics of the game. For a lot of girls they aren't strong skaters in the first place so they've got that going on, and the fact that they have to play both offense and defense at the same time. Don't think that you'll never grasp it- you will. The learning curve SUCKS- but it will be worth it after a few months.

5. When you do endurance, try to push through the pain. Derby is hard and you will get hurt, so try to push through instead of sitting down because your muscles hurt. You're not going to die. Many times I've said to myself in my head "Screw this! I don't want to do this that bad!" But, that wasn't true and I was SO proud of myself when I pushed through the 2 minute squats (or whatever it was).

6. Semi-vets are your best source of support because they want to help you. They feel very special when you ask them questions and they will probably be more willing to help than the vets. The vets are very busy being awesome (there's absolutely NO sarcasm there- seriously) and they have their sort of "inner circle" that's hard to penetrate sometimes. The semi-vets are very willing to help. AND I know you've heard that phrase "if you teach something then you have really learned it". That applies here.

7. You can always cry when you get home. I remember coming home and feeling so disappointed in myself for not doing as well as I wanted, and that's okay. I still get frustrated and that's only normal. It means that you really want to play the sport well- NOT just wear the tights and socks and call yourself a rollergirl. So, go with it. It will take time and you WILL get frustrated.

8. You will get yelled at- don't take it personal. This may be easier for girls who have played sports before, but if you haven't: know that you will get yelled at for all of the wrong things that you do. However, the girls are not yelling at you because you suck- they're yelling at you 1) because it's loud, 2) because it's fast-paced, 3) because some girls are just like that. Leave it on the track and don't worry about it. They don't hate you- it's not about you, it's about letting you know what you did wrong in the moment.

9. The nervous feeling that you have when you go to practice WILL go away. Derby has it's own levels. There's the kiddie pool where you learn the very basics like skating, knee stops, stopping, etc. After you ace that you feel good and so you move up into being able to scrimmage. This makes you feel crappy again because you're back to sucking again. Once you finally feel comfortable putting it all together it's time to take your skills test. Once you pass you're allowed to practice with the "big girls". This makes you feel crappy because you're back to sucking AGAIN. This sucking will last longer than the first round because it will take you longer to start mastering things. Once you feel comfortable you'll play your first bout. This will make you fee crappy because you're back to sucking again. It's a cycle that you'll live through. And when you come out of each round you'll be a better player. Understand the levels and you'll feel less crappy.

10. Your first few bouts will be completely chaotic. People will throw tons of advice at you on that day and they're trying to help, but really it's just making you question everything that you know about your beloved sport. Just smile and nod and don't let it make you more nervous than you already are. It's just like you practice it. However, you WILL get hit harder than you're expecting. And you will NOT understand everything that's going on because your adrenaline is pumping. Just try to get through the movements and the more bouts you do will allow you to understand better.

10 1/2. It's not about being aggressive. I'm sure that aggression helps, but this is where I was mistaken. I thought that I had to get/be angry to play derby and that couldn't be further from the truth. You won't become a better hitter by getting angry, in fact it may make you a worse hitter. You'll become a better hitter by understand who you need to hit and why. I remember asking a vet about how to get more aggressive and she quickly told me that that's not what it was about. So I began to think more about my focus in the game. Once I knew who I needed to hit and why, I stopped thinking that I had to become an angry person. I just became more passionate about wanting my "team" to win, and that's what drives me to hit: not aggression.

8-tips-for-happier-marriage

Do you envy the couples who seem to have the perfect, happy marriages? No need to be envious, you can have one too. These couples are in no way perfect, probably not even happier, but they know how to keep their marriage fresh and exciting. Following these 8 tips below, will help keep your marriage fresh and exciting too.

Remember?
Let's start with remembering your spouse when you first started dating. Do you remember the way he/she gave you butterflies the first time you kissed? Perhaps you remember something special about your spouse, that made you decide right then and there, that you were going to marry him/her. Next time you see your spouse, take a moment to remember something special about them. You will find yourself all giddy again, and glad you did get married. Try to do this each time you see him/her. You will love the results, and so will your spouse.

Do Something Together
Make plans to do something together. If you don't have the same interests, let your spouse choose something they want to do together first. So what if it isn't something you really want to do. Go and don't complain. Next time it is your choice. Make this a weekly, family thing, do not skip out on your spouse, and have fun. If you have kids, find a sitter, or take them along. Perhaps, take the kids along every other time. Either way, just enjoy your time together.

Compliment
Compliment your spouse on a daily basis. Men and women alike love to be complimented. It shows you are paying attention when you compliment your wife's new haircut, and the way it frames it her beautiful face. Ladies, be sure and tell your husband you can tell they have been working out. Do not wait until your spouse ask you for that compliment, surprise them with it out of the blue. Make it a point to do this daily, even if you just tell them they look nice today.

Go On a Date
How can I date when I am married? Simple, you call up your spouse from work, and ask them for a date. Your spouse will probably giggle and accept excitedly. If you have kids, schedule a sitter. Plan a romantic date with a candle light dinner, music and dancing. You and your spouse get all dressed up and go have some fun. End your date at home with a nice bubble bath and glass of wine. You never know what might happen. I am willing to bet you will get a goodnight kiss, and a promise for a second date.

Be Considerate
Always be considerate of your spouse. Never talk down to or humiliate your spouse, in public or behind closed doors. Show your spouse respect like you would want to be shown. Also, think of your spouse and how they would feel about your actions. Always being considerate of your spouse is a good rule of thumb to follow, if you want a happy marriage.

Do Something Thoughtful
Get into the habit each and every day of doing something thoughtful for your spouse. You both work hard, and you both appreciate each other's hard work. Show it. If you go to take a shower first, when you are done, lay out a towel for your spouse. Sure they could have gotten their own towel, but they wont have to, because you thought of them and laid one out for them. Going into the kitchen to grab a drink? Grab your spouse one too. Another good one is, leaving your spouse a note before you go to work. It does not have to be a two page letter, just a note that says you hope they have a good day. Simple things like this will backfire on you, and next thing you know your spouse will be thinking about you too. Look for opportunities to do the simplest little things that you normally do not do for your spouse. They will love it, and your marriage will reap the rewards.

Give Your Spouse Space
As much fun as it is to be together, you also need time apart. Do not deny your spouse time apart, to do something without you every once in a while. You both need friends, other than each other.
Make sure you and your spouse have breathing room. Too much of each other can sometimes wear thin. Besides you need time to pursue your own interests separately. After time spent away, you will be glad to see each other.

Do Not Fight in the Bedroom
Your bedroom is for relaxation and romance. Keep it that way. No heated discussions or bickering in the bedroom. When you go to bed, you do not want to be reminded of any arguments you had that day. If this is where you have your family board meetings, I suggest you move them to a different room in the house. When you walk into your bedroom, you want to feel calm and relaxed, not angry and upset.

7-things-could-lead-divorce

There are many reasons people choose to get a divorce. Sometimes there is a laundry list of reasons and sometimes there may only be one deciding factor that led to the decision for a divorce. In any event, here is a list of seven things that could lead to the end of a marriage:

Communication

Having the ability to communicate effectively with your spouse is important for a marriage to thrive. Being able to talk openly on any topic and receive positive feedback and support is tantamount to ensuring you don't become another statistic. Because if you can't tell your significant other how, for example, you didn't appreciate their tone of voice last night, resentment will build up to the point where you might not be able to stand being in the same room as them. Your spouse should be like a best friend. You should be able to discuss what's on your mind and feel confident your spouse will want to be there and listen.

Respect

It's a problem if your spouse does not respect you. He/she should respect your ideas, opinions and decisions. In marriage these days there should be no clear line indicating the husband is better than the wife and vice versa. This isn't the 50's. Your significant other should respect you as a person and treat you like an equal.

Finances

Spending too much, not making enough, losing a job and bankruptcy are all reasons people argue over finances. Fighting over money is a serious issue that leads a lot of marriage's straight to divorce. Discuss your limits, know your budget and in the event you or your spouse loses a job or you have to file for bankruptcy, band together and fight the unfortunate turn of events as a team.

Intimacy

Keeping the intimacy alive is very important if you want to maintain a happy, healthy marriage. Without it you could both lose integral pieces of yourselves. Remember when you first met and got married? Intimacy was probably never a question but an immediate response. Have kids and can't find the time? Try to plan it out using a calendar and work it into your schedule. Although that might sound ridiculous and takes away from the spontaneity, it's much better than having no intimacy at all.

Addiction

Whether it's an affinity for nicotine, gambling, video games or drugs an addiction can tear a marriage apart if not addressed and taken care of properly. If it's a lighter addiction, like video gaming, try to sit your spouse down and work out a time frame for when playing is okay and for when it's time to stop. For the more serious addictions like drugs, drinking and gambling a more dramatic avenue should be explored. Make sure the proper steps are taken to get your spouse the professional help that is needed. A lot of trust will be lost and couples therapy should seriously be considered. Your spouse may be the one with the addiction but you're going to need help, too.

Abuse

Abuse in a relationship can be mental, emotional and/or physical. Mental and emotional abuse consists of your spouse berating you with harsh words. They demean and belittle you and call you names. This barrage will ultimately result in feelings of worthlessness. Physical abuse is just that - physical. Even if your spouse pushes you that is still considered physical abuse. It is extremely unhealthy and in some instances the physical abuse could become so violent that death could occur. If your spouse abuses you in any way you need to seek out shelter and leave.

Infidelity

People all over handle the infidelity of a spouse in different ways. Some immediately leave, some stay and ignore it, some stay and choose to believe their spouse when they say it won't happen again and some stay but seek counseling for themselves and their partner. Those that choose to stay should seek help. Infidelity can be catastrophic to a marriage and learning the keys to surviving it is extremely important.

7-foods-rev-love-life

If you've been married for any length of time, routines and the trials of life have a way of sapping energy and any kind of s.e.x. drive you may have had. So I did a little research and found a "helpful" article on natural foods that will (supposedly) light a fuse in the bedroom.

The first thing is strawberries. Theses little beauties are full of antioxidants which helps improve circulation - great, as I'll need all the help and circulation I can get just to go to the market, pick them up, clean them, then try to sneak them into something that doesn't resemble a fruit cup for Hubby.

Second on the list is eggs. Yes, eggs! 'Cause nothing says romance like a big pile of jiggly, oozing, slightly under (or even over) cooked eggs. Sure it may be high in B6 for an energy boast, but even if you hard boil it (avoiding the gooey white, slimy booger glob) I'll be using all of that new found vigor to get away from the I-have-really-bad-sulfur-gas stench that accompanies the cracking open of one of these delights.

Third on this sex-food list is steak. Of course, who doesn't love a good slab of bloody meat? Personally, steak for me is something I eat on the very rarest of occasions and it needs to be cooked - thoroughly - no blood, no oozing, no pink fluid run-off as I slice into it. Hubby on the other hand loves steak and probably won't need me after he eats one...

The next on the list I totally agree with is chocolate - it's full of a mood enhancing substance called, methylxanthine, or in a menopausal woman's hands - the power to soothe the savage beast. Hubby keeps a stash of these on hand and has actually waved one in front of my face when I'm having a melt down. The very sight of it will magically transform me back to (almost) human status; however, with chocolate, who needs a man?

The list went on to suggest a big dose of garlic. You heard me, garlic. Yeah...okay...Hubby has the intestinal track of a goose and garlic tends to aggravate this condition, so this would be the last choice on my list. Even if it does dilate the blood vessels to the nether-regions, the noxious fumes emanating from another region would pretty much kill the deal.

How about oatmeal? Apparently, this breakfast food increases testosterone levels in your blood. Add some walnuts, which are loaded with the good fatty-acids (which is a major component in sex hormones) and you have yourself a sex-fest-breakfast.

Yeah..nothing says "come hither" like a big bowl of thick, gluey, barf-like substance. Once this hits your stomach you feel like you've eaten a full course Thanksgiving Day meal and all I want to do is take a nap. Not to mention, Hubby is allergic to walnuts, so a "sexy" trip to the emergency room I guess could be considered foreplay?

I realize there's a lot of scientific expertise that goes into these findings, but in my house, after being together for over 25 years, food isn't a sex-starter, it's something to be gobbled down in front of the television and, if it's especially tasty, fought over for the last helping - Hubby will get a fork in his hand if he tries to eat off of MY plate. I think a better topic for an article should suggest foods to turn-off your partner - hmmm, that gives me an idea...

7-easy-ways-rekindle-romance

Why is it that romance seems so easy and natural while you are dating, but more difficult than learning a foreign language when you are married? While you are dating, it is only obvious that you should buy flowers, open doors, or buy "just because" gifts. Once you get married, the gears seem to shift to working overtime, eating in front of the TV, and passing out without any more than a mumbled "night" to your spouse.
The most common claims are that children, work, and financial stress killed the martial bliss. While I know it is 100% true that they contribute to the death of romance, it is actually a lack of very small gestures that ultimately lead to its downfall. These are little things that are often overlooked and even forgotten about amidst all the noise and stress. Here are 7 of these very simple tactics you can use to start rebuilding that fire and saving your marriage today.

1. Kiss. You remember kissing, don't you? I don't mean the meaningless automatic kiss goodbye before rushing off to work, either. Look into your spouse's eyes, smile, and kiss them with meaning.

2. Write a "thank you" card. It doesn't need to be a Hallmark moment. Just a simple "Thank you for being you" on a card or note will put a smile on their face. Especially if it is just because and you put it somewhere for them to find rather than just handing it to them.

3. Have dinner together. Better yet, prepare dinner together, even if it is re-heated leftovers. Then sit and eat together without the TV, phones, or other distractions.

4. Have a date night. Date nights can be a romantic dinner at home, the movies, dinners at restaurants, or even double dates with other couples. Just be sure it is the two of you doing something together and without the children.

5. Give each other massages. Massage oils can be bought very cheap these days and in a varieties of scents. Massages can be of the feet, hands, back legs, scalp, or anywhere really. You could of course spring to get a couples massage at the spa, but then you miss out of the "hands on" experience with your spouse.

6. Do a chore for each other. I.e. let her sleep in on Saturday while you clean the house, or mow the lawn(s) for him on Sunday so he can watch the whole game. Simply something nice to show you recognize their needs, and be sure not to something just because you want them to do something.

7. Compliment your spouse. When was the last time you genuinely told him how much you love his creativity, or told her how beautiful she looks in the morning? Don't ever give a compliment you don't mean, though. Also, don't say something generic like "You're pretty."

Most importantly, don't stress it. I understand that it is stressful when you are in a situation where you feel you must act now to save your marriage, but these little things do not require much. You can help revive the romance in your relationship with simple gestures here and there, and don't need to worry about everything being perfect. Romance came easily while you were dating because it was all fresh and both of you worried a bit more about the impression you made on the other. Just because you're married doesn't mean you should stop trying to make a good impression and show that you genuinely care about one another.

I can guarantee that just implementing a couple of these strategies can greatly improve the quality of your relationship and can help save your marriage, giving you new found hope for "happily ever after". Just try and see for yourself!

If you're interested in learning 6 more strategies to help you save your marriage for free, check out my page, Saving Your Marriage Find strategies you can start using today.

6 signs describe any of your guy's behavior

Worried that your sweetheart is cheating on you? Compare his behavior to the following 6 signs that a man is a player. If you see him in them, you may need to confront him or exit the relationship.
1- His sexual habits change.
Just like you, most men have a certain sexual drive by the time they reach adulthood. If your lover's suddenly changes or always is up and down, take a second look at him because he may have another partner. Unless he's stressed out or sick, he should be consistent.

2- You can't get his number.
He calls you from a pay phone or contacts you through a friend. This is a key sign he's a player. Your guy is putting a roadblock between you and him because he's got another lady (or ladies) and wants to control your access to him.

3- His friends are mainly women.
Unless a man is batting for the other team, he normally has more male friends than female. If your boyfriend is just the opposite, beware. All of his relationships aren't just platonic. A few are probably more and like you think they are the only ones.

4- You can't account for his time.
Unaccounted for time is a sure sign your significant other is a player. Couples in committed relationships know where each other are most of the time. So, if he's missing for a few hours here and there, he's spending time with another woman he cares for.

5- His history with women is sketchy.
Learn from the mistakes of women like Sandra Bullock and Halle Berry. Men who have a past record of many sexual partners often can't slow down. They are either addicted to sex. Be careful with this type of guy because he'll cheat and break your heart.

6- He whispers through his phone calls.
People who have nothing to hide don't have to talk low throughout their phone calls. They can discuss almost anything openly except for classified information relating to business. If your man does this constantly, this is a sign he's a player, especially when he makes up some weird story afterward to justify his actions.

Hopefully, none of these 6 signs describe any of your guy's behavior. But, if they do, decide now how you want to handle him. Whether you stay or leave, you should get a clear understanding of your relationship and how you fit into his world.

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Your old '80s prom dress with the enormous bow may not appeal to you daughter when her time comes, but there are lots of creative things you do with it to extend it's useful life. Here are a few:

Throw a "Mom's Prom"

This one assumes you and your friends can still get into your dresses. Send the kids off to the prom and party retro style. Plan a casual event at someone's house or a true replica prom complete with band, dinner, pictures and a rented venue. "Mom Prom" events are frequently thrown to raise money for local charities.

Make Reusable Gift Bags

This is a simple project for even the most sewing challenged. Cut a swath of fabric roughly twice the size of the bag you want to make. Then double it over with the pretty side hidden. Sew up the sides, and then flip it inside out to reveal the pretty side to the world. You can sew in a drawstring at the top, if you want or just finish the top with a hem then use a ribbon to close it after you put the gift inside.

Think about all those fabulous silks, satins and velvets that could be under your tree this year at Christmas. How impressed would your friends be if you brought one of these to the next baby shower or birthday party? The best thing about them is that you can use them again next time (or the recipient of your gift can). They will cost you almost nothing, and you won't have a bunch of paper to throw away after the celebration.

Make Decorative Pillows

This one is about as involved as the gift bags. They work best when your prom dress happens to match your decor, or maybe your little girl's bedroom. Cut two identical pieces, turn them inside out. Sew around the edges leaving a hole about the size of a quarter. Turn inside out by pulling the fabric through the hole. Stuff with pillow fluff (available at any sewing shop, or reuse the fluff from old pillows). Sew up the hole and decorated with ribbons, buttons, sequins, etc.

Donate It To a Theatre Group

Your local High School probably has a Drama Department or there may be a Little Theatre Group in your town. Theatre groups usually have access to seamstresses who can transform an old prom dress into a ball gown for a period play or a tutu for a ballerina. Most are thrilled to have free raw materials to work with.

Us It As a Halloween Costume

Put on a plastic tiara and you can be a princess - even Princess Diana if you have an '80s prom dress and a short blonde wig. Black dresses can become witch costumes, and sexier dresses can be shortened to make devil or vixen costumes.

Use Them in Scrapbooks and Other Art Projects

Prom dresses are often bedazzled with rhinestones, sequins, beading, buttons and bows - all things that are useful in crafting. Cut pieces of fabric can also be used to decorate picture frames, scrapbook pages, and collages. And they make great quilting squares.

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1. Carry a Lightweight Bouquet.
In order to keep the flowers fresh at my wedding, the florist included a special grip around the base of the bouquet that was filled with water. Not only did it end up dripping ice-cold water on my dress during the ceremony, but it made the bouquet weigh what felt like 10lbs. My elbow was literally shaking during the ceremony, and not from the jitters! The day after the wedding, I could barely move my arm. See to it that your bouquet is lightweight and easy to hold, so that you don't have any distractions from the important vows you're about to make.
2. Make Photos Priority Number One.
Don't ever skimp when it comes to your photographer at the wedding. This should be your highest priority because your wedding day is about the memories; long after the cake has been eaten, the flowers have died, and the bridesmaid gowns have faded, you'll still have the photographs. If you're disappointed with how the photos come out, it will color your memories of your special day. And every bride deserves to be beautiful, and have pictures she's proud to show her family and friends. If you have to cut back on your wedding budget-do it elsewhere. Your photographs are the touchstone you'll have to remember these moments in time; make them count.

3. Don't Try A New Cosmetics Regime.
You may be tempted, days before the wedding, to try an entirely new cosmetics regime, or to use tanning lotion, or to use Nair, or to get yourself waxed. Word to the wise: Don't. In the two weeks before your wedding, you're likely to be more stressed out than ever before. Your skin is likely to be more sensitive too. While trying a new foundation might not normally make you break out into hives, these are not normal times. If you're going to wear new make-up or tanning lotion for the big day, start making the transition a month in advance. Consider plucking instead of waxing. (Sometimes, a sensitive layer of skin might come up with the wax strip, leaving you a slightly red seeping wound-no reason to chance that on your big day.)

4. Keep a Control Journal.
I thought it was a joke, really, when I heard my DJ playing Cool and the Gang, since Cool and the Gang topped our Do Not Play List, just above the Chicken Dance. The DJ would later claim (under much pressure from my bridesmaids - hell hath no fury like bridesmaids trussed up in wine-colored lace) that he did not receive the Do Not Play List. I knew I'd written one, but I was kind of busy being the bride-too busy to go argue with the DJ about music. If I'd kept a control journal of everything I wanted and didn't want, I could have whipped out an extra copy and handed it to him. If you have instructions as to how you want your day to go, from the flowers to the cake, to everything else, write them out in a Journal and have one of the bridesmaids bring it to the wedding. This way, if the waitresses are giving your vegetarian Uncle Henry chicken when he was supposed to get the egg souffle, you can have someone whip out an extra copy of the menu sheet and order will be restored.

5. Take your Time on the Aisle.
Hopefully, you'll get to be a bride exactly once in your life. That walk down the aisle, when all eyes are on you and your escort, is one that you want to remember and savor. Walk much slower than you think you should walk. Stagger your steps even, if you like. What most people don't tell you is that it's the reverse trip that's the most fun. Once you've said your vows, been pronounced man and wife, and find yourself leaving the altar, that's the most beautiful moment. All your guests are there, clapping for you and happy. Resist the urge to run. Take in their love, cherish the moment, and really stop and feel it.

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Disclaimer: This article is not intended to provide medical advice, professional diagnosis, opinion, treatment or services to you or to any other individual. This article is for educational purposes only. Consult your physician prior to taking any supplements or beginning an exercise regimen.
Early ejaculation is very common. In fact, it is estimated that over three-quarters of men ejaculate within two minutes of penetration, in more than half of their sexual encounters. The good news is that there are some very easy ways to significantly delay ejaculation. Here are a few easy ways to last longer in bed:

1. Practice at home: When you masturbate, practice gaining awareness of your level of stimulation. Learn to identify when you have reached the point of no return, and teach yourself to take breaks. Taking breaks can help reduce the level of arousal, and delay ejaculation.

2. Kegel Exercises: Kegel exercises tone the pelvic floor muscles (PC muscles) and can give you more control over ejaculation. To identify the PC muscles, practice the next time you urinate. When you stop peeing midstream, the PC muscles are the ones responsible for stopping the flow of urine. To train these muscles, practice by squeezing-and-holding them. You can also do sets and repetitions, like you would with any other exercise, i.e. 2 sets of 20 flexes.

3. Go for a Second Round: Most men's penises are the most sensitive during the first round of intercourse. After the recovery period (also known as the refractory period), try going for a second session. Most men are much less sensitive the second time around, and are able to last much longer.

4. Let Her Climb on Top: When a woman is on top and the man is lying on his back, his penis is less stimulated. Decreasing stimulation can help delay ejaculation.

5. Increase Nitric Oxide Levels: Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction have both been found to be related to nitric oxide levels. There are a few ways to increase nitric oxide with supplements such as: horny goat weed, ginseng, l-arginine, and tribulus terrestris. Talk to your doctor before taking any supplements.

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Too often we get caught up in the craziness of our day to day lives, and lose sight of the relationships that matter most. Many times, we only realize a relationship is in trouble when we are well past the point of a simple correction, and where more serious and concerted efforts are required. Utilizing one or more of the suggestions in this article will provide a good start for resolving conflict in repairing your relationship issues.

Proactive Communication. We often fail to communicate with people we spend a lot of time around, especially our loved ones. To keep relationships positive and growing, you need to keep an open and proactive line of communication. Make sure that you tell your spouse your feelings, and remember to listen to their feelings, both verbalized and expressed through body language. At the first sign of realizing there is an actual or potential rift in your relationship, it is best for you to set aside quiet time with your significant other, clear the air and reestablish the lines of communication that will allow your relationship to move forward, resolve issues and remain solid.

Seek out the Root Causes of Your Conflicts. If you find yourself in a situation where you in your spouse are constantly arguing, bickering, or otherwise in a cycle of negative in accusatory argument, step back and realize that the pettiness of the fighting will not resolve the underlying issues. Take some time to allow each of you to have some privacy to reflect the underlying causes of your anxiety, anger or concern. Sometimes, you will find that one or both of you are more interested in "winning" an argument, without even realizing what you are arguing about. Once you understand the root cause of your disagreements, you will be able to address the resolution of those issues in a calm and productive manner. Sometimes this will require the use of a third-party to help you resolve these issues.

Respect Your Partner and Yourself. Rather than playing the blame game, and finding fault in your spouse, remember that it is easier to tear someone down then build them up. You will often find that finger-pointing is a cyclical style of argument, and will continue until either you or your partner walk away. If you find yourself in a position where a discussion is dissolving into a blame session, have enough respect for yourself and your spouse to calm down or pause your conversation until both of you can be productive in finding solutions.

Actively Appreciate Each Other. Take some time in your relationship to let your spouse know the reasons you appreciate them, and do this on a regular basis. Showing appreciation can be done with words or small gestures, so long as they are sincere. You will find that taking the first step in showing your appreciation for your loved ones will open a door for them to show their appreciation for you.

Look To a Professional. If you find that you and your significant other are unable to work through the resolution of issues in your relationship, seek the help of a trained professional. Professionals could include a mutually respected member of your church, a therapist, or another trusted individual who can provide independent advice about your relationship.

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Weddings are a beautiful time of new beginnings. White wedding dresses are traditionally worn by the bride. White is a color associated with purity, goodness and light. Creating a snow white wedding is a beautiful way to celebrate the goodness in your life. There are many things that can be done to aid in creating a snow white wedding. Here are five.

Decorate With White Roses

White roses are stunning and have a delicate and delightful aroma. The white rose or bridal rose symbolizes a happy love. Decorate your wedding with white roses and rose petals. White silk rose petals make for a beautiful decoration around vases, food, and the wedding cake. White roses are a breathtaking way to create a snow white wedding.

Let it Snow

For a dramatic effect let it snow at your wedding with a snow machine. Using a snow machine would be ideal at an outdoor wedding. Snow machines can be purchased as well as rented. Another way to create snow, snowballs, snowflake and more is with artificial snow-making powder. Using spray snow allows you to decorate mirrors, windows, and tree branches. Creating a snow white wedding is easy with the many uses of fake snow.

Frosted Wine Glasses

Frosted wine glasses are another way to create an illusion of a snow white wedding. Frosted wine glasses are perfect for serving champagne. Purchase frosted wine glasses or make them yourself with spray-on glass frosting. After the wedding take them home as a wedding gift to yourself.

White Chocolate

Not only is white chocolate delicious it can be used as an edible decoration. Purchase chocolate molds and white chocolate melting wafers from a craft store or cake decorating store. Heart molds or rose molds would be perfect for a wedding. Using heart and rose molds would make for a beautiful assortment.

Snow White Buttercream Frosting

A snow white wedding has to have a cake topped with snow white frosting. If ordering your wedding cake be sure to tell the baker that you want the frosting to be as white as snow. When making your own frosting Wilton offers a recipe for Snow White Buttercream Icing.

Use these ideas to create a beautiful snow white wedding or a snowy atmosphere for any special occasion.

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5 top mens presents for the guy

If you're racking your brain as to what to give the guys in your life this Christmas, you've come to the right spot. Here we'll explore 5 top mens presents for the guy who has everything, expanding your thinking and creativity to find perfect gifts that you'll love giving and he'll love receiving!



1. A Trip to the Moon



Well, maybe not quite. But, think outside the box! A gift doesn't have to be packaged and tied with a bow on top to be a great idea. Give him a voucher for a day out over the holidays, and pack his favourite foods and go for a trip to the zoo, museum, park, or even the beach or mountains (depending on which hemisphere you're in and what the weather will be like at Christmas). Skiing, water sports, hiking, bike riding, and other outdoor activities - perhaps some he's never tried before but you know he'd love - all make for memorable birthday gifts.



2. Vouchers are not Boring!



One may think that giving a gift voucher is boring and hasn't had much thought put into it. Not really. And I'm serious. Gift vouchers can be some of the best mens presents out there. Find a shop he absolutely loves, and gift him a gift voucher - whether it be for the hardware store, electronics shop, a mens gift shop, or his favourite candy shop. Or wrap up a plate, knife and fork from your kitchen, and let him know that you'll take him out for a romantic dinner for two during the holidays. Season passes are also brilliant, whether it's for the theme park, the zoos or museums in your city, or to the cinemas.



3. Car Gifts



This is such a broad topic. Does he like Ford or BMWs? Get some licensed merchandise for him. Loves racing? Take him to the races or buy a framed print of Peter Brock or some other famous racing car driver. If he drives a bomb but would love to drive a Ferrari, buy all little gadgets of Ferrari merchandise and scatter them throughout his beat up little car!



4. Personalised Gifts



Even the most seemingly-insignificant gifts can be spruced up with a bit of personalisation. Almost any mens presents that have metal on them can be engraved with his name, making a brilliant personalised gift. Beer steins, money clips, and keyrings are all popular ideas for mens presents.



5. Meaningful Presents



Hopefully one will consider all the previous suggestions meaningful also, but if you're looking for inexpensive but something special for your man, consider some fun options. Buy lots of little items, for example candies, a keyring, a pen, a mug, a picture frame, and office accessories, but buy them all in his favourite colour - and don't forget to wrap them all in that coloured gift wrap too! Or buy items that all start with the first initial of his name. It doesn't have to be massive, but if you're wanting mens presents that show you've put thought into them, think a little creatively.



May this year's Christmas presents be enjoyable, non-stressful, and loved by your guy who has everything!

5 Traits That Guys Hate In Girls

For a relationship to work well, the guy as well as the girl must be aware of each others likes and dislikes. While it is true that it is often the guys who chase the girls since they find them cute and adorable, it is also true that many girls put off the guys by having unreasonable demands and expectations. So if you are a girl who doesn't know what the guys hate about the girls, here is a small guide on what the guys really hate in girls.
5 Traits That Guys Hate In Girls

1) Nagging and Jealousy - A guy often doesn't mind when he is confronted with lots of questions on his whereabouts and doings. But what really gets to the nerves of most guys is when the same question are repeated over and over again and when they start sounding more like an accusation rather than a question. Most guys get defensive when they face lots of accusations while the girls think that they are getting defensive because they must have done something wrong. You must learn to trust your guy and have faith in him if you want the relationship to go forward.

2) Acting to get attention - Many girls have a habit of acting needy to get attention. They may start complaining about food, restaurant, even their own dress, hair color etc. on a date. What the girl may not realize is that the trick works for some time but the guy starts losing interest in her after some time. So do not act needy to get attention, your guy is there for you.

3) Expecting guys to be mind readers - Many girls have a habit of saying something while they mean something different altogether. Do not expect your guy to be a mind reader, guys are often not good at mind reading and guessing. If there is something bothering you, do not hesitate to tell it to your guy. Guys do appreciate frankness, so tell it to your guy as it is.

4) Making guys wait - Everyone hates waiting, including the guy who loves you. If you have a habit of being late for a date, you must get your act together immediately. Being a girl doesn't give you a liberty to come late for dates. Most guys don't mind waiting for a few extra minutes but if you are always late without a good reason then you will lose respect of your guy.

5) Expecting guys to be always available - This is another habit that gets to the nerves of most guys. Most girls expect their guys to be always available for them even if they are not together. So the girls start calling and texting over and over again expecting the guy to respond to their queries at any given time. Give your guy some space, he may be busy with his work.

5 tips to Get Your Ex Back

Breaking up with a boyfriend/girlfriend is kind of like ripping off a band-aid. You know it's going to hurt like hell, and you just want to get it over with as soon as possible. And, the longer you wait, the more painful it's going to be. It's time to stop procrastinating. Don't waste another second trapped in a dead end relationship, because every second wasted is time that could have been spent finding your real true love. While you will probably never make it through a break up completely unscathed, there are a few things you can do to make the situation a little less painful. These 5 break up tips will help you break the news to your future ex, and get you both on the road to recovery.

1. Always be honest, but don't be brutal.

Do not start off by saying, "It's not you, it's me" or "I really need to focus on my work right now". We've all heard those lines before, and we know it couldn't be further from the truth. Instead, just sit down and have a nice mature conversation with him/her. Give them clear, well thought out reasons as to why you can no longer be together, and listen to what they have to say. Don't lay all the blame on him/her, or yourself. Relationships are a two way street, and you've probably both made some mistakes, so just be honest. Now, of course they are going to be understandably upset by receiving this news, and when someone is upset or angry, they often say or do things that they later regret. This is why it's very important for you to stay calm, and don't take everything your ex says to heart. Yes, it may be tough to hear some of the things they have to say, but it's better to stay calm, than say something that you will soon regret.

2. Refrain from using phrases that send mixed signals.

Using phrases such as, "Let's take a break" or "I just need some time to myself", tells your ex that you two may possibly get back together one day. Therefore your ex may find it hard to move on, and start new relationships. So unless you are seriously thinking about getting back together at some point, it's just best to flat out tell him/her it's over. It may not be easy for them to hear, but they will respect you for being honest. Laying everything right out on the table, allows you both to know where you stand, and there will be no confusion. Another common mistake people make is insisting on being friends immediately after the breakup. Yes, being friends at some point may be great for the both of you, but right now you both need some space. Taking a little time away from each other will allow you both to heal, and may ultimately strengthen your relationship down the road.

3. Never break up with someone over the phone.

The same goes for texting, email, and social media. This is definitely a big no-no, and despite what some may think, it is not okay under any circumstances. Breaking up with someone this way, not only makes your partner feel like they didn't mean anything to you, but also makes you look like a coward. Yes, no one likes a confrontation, but sometimes it has to be done. You owe it to yourself and your partner to be able to handle this situation as mature adults, and the only way to do that is with a face to face confrontation. It's not the easiest way, but it is the right way.

4. Don't break up with someone in public.

Breaking up with someone in public means he/she can't make a scene, right? Wrong! If your partner is naturally an emotional or short tempered person, he/she will probably make a scene whether you're in public or not. Which will not only create an embarrassing situation for them, but even more so, for yourself. Even if your partner does not make a scene, it still has the potential of being very awkward and humiliating for them. I mean, who wants to get dumped in a room full of strangers? So, to prevent a potentially devastating situation, stay away from public places. If this is not possible, try finding a private or less crowded area to break the news.

5. Let him/her be the first to know.

You know what they say,"News travels fast". People love to gossip, and the juicier the secret, the faster it spreads. Nothing can be more embarrassing for you and your ex, than to have one of your friends blab the news, before you do. It's natural to want to discuss these things with close friends, but sometimes even your closest friends have a hard time keeping a secret. So unless you are absolutely sure you can trust that person with this secret, it's best to just keep it to yourself. After all, you and your partner's relationship is really nobody's business, but your own.

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So you've taken his call or replied to his message. Yeah, you'll go out with him--why not? Maybe your friends know him and assure you he's a nice guy. Maybe the Private Detective found no outstanding warrants, or maybe you just have a good feeling. Either way, you're ready to get out there and have some fun.

Here are a few things an eligible, elegant lady like you should not do on that first date (unless you don't want a second one.). Forgive me if they sound obvious, but as we so often learn: "Common sense is not common."

Rule #1 - Don't curse. 

Would you pick your nose, talk with your mouth full of food or make noticeable body noises on a first date? Probably not. So then why would you show off a potty mouth to a guy you've just met?

I don't mean to sound like a prude--I'm not. But I've heard some trashy things the first time I met some girls. Maybe they were attempting to sound tough and impressive. I don't know. It just didn't work with me.

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• What's that you say: it's a free country and don't men curse all the time? I think it's a shame we've gotten so coarse. The English language has over half a million words, and yet so many resort to the same few expletives. I never said never curse. Just get to know the guy first.

Exceptions to Rule #1

* The guy's a beer-swilling, unpretentious schlub, who likes it raw.

*The guy finds you amazingly hot (That's a no brainer).


Rule #2 - Don't be self absorbed.

Once I was at a gathering and this young woman started talking to me. And then she kept talking for over fifteen minutes. I learned that she was an attorney in a law firm who despised the lawyer assigned to supervise her. She really did not like this man, but why was she compelled to spill out her woes to me? I admit she was good looking, but it was too much.

Luckily I was not on a date with her, so I was able to excuse myself. Needless to say, I never spoke to that attorney again.

Exceptions to Rule #2

*You are really charming. I knew a girl who wasn't good looking and talked a lot about herself. But her stories were humorous, she flirted constantly and she knew how to interact. If you can do all of the above, you can transgress the rule.

* The guy finds you exceedingly hot.


Rule #3 - Don't talk about sex--unless you really want it now.

We know that guys are on the lookout for the easy score. And while I'm not here to praise or condemn, I recommend to be careful what you say to a guy (unless you're just a natural-born tease). Just as you wouldn't wear a barely-there outfit if you don't want the hassle, watch the hot talk.

This also involves a current event as well. Be careful when discussing the latest celebrity sexcapades and rumors. He might think it's more than idle curiosity on your part (is it?).


Exceptions to Rule #3

* If you laugh it off, he may not know what to make of you. He won't know if you want it or not.

* The guy finds you stunningly hot.


Rule #4 - Don't be too honest too fast.

Once I met a lass in a bookstore who flirted with me right off the bat. We got into a conversation rhythm very quickly. I was going to ask her out on a date, until she got too comfortable. At some point she said "life is bull sh**" (which broke Rule #1 for me). I let that slide until she let out an observation that everybody was "walking wounded." I asked another girl out instead.

While I was impressed with her frank assessments, I got spooked by her negativity. On some level, she felt she could share anything with me. On another, I thought this was all too fast to take. Keep the banter pleasant; let things come out when they should.


Exceptions to Rule #4

*You've both met because of a dramatic/traumatic event. Sometimes an extreme situation can bond people like nothing else could. However, that's not a normal dating experience, and even accident survivors like a good joke.

* The guy finds you unbelievably hot.

Rule #5 - Don't sell yourself short--ever!

This is the polar opposite of Rule #2. For your date you went out and got a new dress, maybe some new high heels. You prepared and primped and did all those lovely things women do to make themselves alluring. You show up and he compliments your looks. Then you turn around or say something like, "I'm really not that pretty."

You are! Just as annoying as a stuck-up person is someone who plays the perennial sad sack. A guy wants a girl he can admire. Why do you think a man refers to his lady as, "my better half?"

Instead thank the man for the compliment and smile. A mild self-deprecating remark can be a welcome sign of humility, but keep it in moderation.

Exceptions to Rule #5

*There are no exceptions. You are worth it.

In the end, a little common sense (and self control) goes a long way. True, there is no substitute for being yourself, but sometimes it's worth going on that second date. Once the pressure of the "interview" is over, people can be more like themselves. Happy dating!

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Being in love is a beautiful thing. Romance is in the air. The birds are chirping, the sun is shining and all is right with the world. Then reality sets in. This is not what you signed up for. What began as a wonderful love story is slowly turning into a walk in the twilight zone. When did things change? How did you not notice?

Often when we think we're in love, we're really in the land of delusion. I know it's hard to admit, but it's where most of us live in the beginning stages of any romance. We're so enchanted with love stories and romanticized fairytales, that we forget to keep our feet firmly planted in reality. The truth is that your wonderful love interest does have flaws.

No matter how great he or she is, they are not perfect. No one is nor should we expect them to be. Though they are not perfect, they could have the wonderful combination of imperfections that suits us wonderfully.
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But how do you know if those imperfections are flaws you can live with or simply the warning signals of danger ahead. Should you stay and accept those imperfections as a part of life or should you pack your bags and decide to move on. While everyone has their own litmus test, I'd like to offer five sure signs that let you know your relationship may not survive.

1. There is no defined commitment - I know you're saying, duh??? But I'm always surprised when I talk to some heartbroken person who finds out their "one-and-only" has another love interest. Really? If he or she hasn't defined the relationship, you're not in one. Know this and never give your heart to someone who hans't even taken the time to commit to you exclusively.

2. You can't be yourself - When you find yourself always trying to "become" what you think your mate desires, you're headed for trouble. You will never be happy living out a role you're playing to please someone else. You are wonderful and the BEST you on the earth. Flaunt it! If someone can't love the real you, they don't deserve you.

3. You can't voice your opinion - You are not a robot. You do have a brain, so use it! No one has to follow your advice, but if he or she doesn't at least acknowledge it, move on.

4. You can't have a life outside of your mate - No one wants to be smothered. While you may enjoy your mate's company, having friendships and camaraderie with others is healthy. If your mate denies you that privilege, they are telling you they don't trust you. The person you are connecting with should trust your judgement in people. Afterall, if you had enough sense to select them, perhaps you do know how to select good friends.

5. You have to compete for your date's attention - While you don't want to monopolize all of your date's time, you do want to be seen as a priority in his or her life. If you are always begging them to spend time with you, they are silently telling you what is really important to them. Always believe what a person does.

While these few signs may not necessarily mean there is no hope for the survival of the relationship, they are things that should give you pause. The decisions you make now will affect your future. Proceed with caution.

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Looking for affordable and romantic Valentine's Day centerpieces you can make yourself. Here are five simple projects that make beautiful Valentine's Day centerpieces! All of the materials are super cheap and should allow you to make a nice large Valentine's Day centerpiece. These are all great for a long dinner table that needs quite a bit of decoration in the middle to fill it up.

You can make a beautiful and simple affordable centerpiece put pf some simple: 

Large Silk Leaves, Chocolates, Candles and a Platter. Simply look buy some large green laves from the local arts and craft store. Lay them out in a border on you large platter. Place you candles in the middle of the platter and surround them with some pre wrapped Valentine's Day chocolates. Hershey Kisses are perfect for this! You have a romantic centerpiece that you can nibble on.
For a more formal and colorful affordable Valentine's Day centerpiece you will need: Glass Jars, Candles, Hershey's Kisses, and some Ribbon (Optional). Place your pillar candles in the glass jars. Pour in some whole red or silver wrapped Hershey's Kisses around ht candles. You can add more detail with some Valentine's Day ribbon. I like to make this centerpiece with some leftover drinking glasses that are big enough to hold some pillar candles. This is a great way to use glasses that may spend most of their life on the shelf in the kitchen cabinet.
Do you have some beautiful and simple dinnerware or even some fancy china? For this simple centerpiece you will need: dinner plates, candles, and red and white carnations. Well, try busting out one of those extra plates and placing some pillar candles in the middle of it. You can make it more formal by placing a simple ring of red white carnations around the plate as well. This is a great way to carry on a uniform look on your romantic Valentine's Day dinner table if you are already using a special china pattern.
For a very natural and earthy inspired Valentine's Day centerpiece you will need: sticks or twigs, red ribbon, glass jar, and a candle. Simply collect a variety of twigs and sticks from the yard. Snap them off to the same height as your jar. You can use some hot glue to glue them to the jar vertically. Next, slip your candle into the jar and tie a beautiful Valentine's Day ribbon around the jar covered in twigs. This is a great centerpiece to make for your romantic dinner table on a small scale as well. You can use short rocks glass or even juice glasses in place for the jar. Snap your twigs off at the short height. Drop in a tea candle and tie a thin Valentine's Day ribbon around the centerpiece. You could still use hot glue for this because it easily pops off when cooled. This way you do not ruin your drinking glasses.
Finally, for a simple and affordable centerpiece on your Valentine's Day dinner tables your will need: teacups and saucers, tea candles or floating candle, and single flowers or mini roses. This is another great Valentine's Day centerpiece if you have some simple china or tableware. We rarely use those teacups, so break them out here. Make a row of ten teacups and saucers down the center of your Valentine's Day dinner table. Fill each one with water. Add a floating candle or a tea candle. Next, you can fill the teacups with those great mini roses that are at the grocery store. You could also ad s a little water to these teacups and put in a single stemmed flower. This is an elegant way to light up your entire dinner table. This would also be great if you wanted to place a teacup at every seat. This way you can have all of your china out whether you are serving coffee or not!

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Relationships are chancy, complicated, and at times confusing. However, despite the hassle and frustration, many people wish to bond with someone. If your relationship is good, you likely do not fear a breakup. Still, breakups do happen when some least expect and seemingly without warning. Unsurprisingly, couples will fight. Some people realize that bickering and disagreements are unavoidable, and work to improve the relationship. On the other hand, there are individuals who expect a perfect relationship.

Hence, they cannot handle the ups and downs of courting. To avoid being caught off guard, it is essential to recognize the signs that precede a breakup. There are situations in which a breakup can be easily predicted. For example, a partner that repeatedly cheats, enduring verbal or physical abuse, or simply growing apart. There are many signs of a forthcoming breakup. The trouble lies when people choose to overlook the facts. Breakups are painful. Nonetheless, the breakup is less traumatic if you recognize a partner's lost interest beforehand. Here are five signs to help you discern when a relationship is reaching its end.

Partner Seems Reserved and Detached. Being unable to connect with your partner is a key sign that he or she is losing interest.

 Talking less, disappearing acts, and avoiding any type of affection should raise red flags. Of course, some people are not as vocal as others. Furthermore, some people are less affectionate. However, if the relationship began with your partner spending a lot of time with you, calling you throughout the day, and constant cuddling, it's only naturally to be a little suspicious if the behavior ends completely. As relationships mature, couples tend to cuddle less and have shorter conversations. Still, partners that go from one extreme to the other without reasonable cause are likely losing interest.

Never Available to Take Your Phone Call. An unreachable partner is reason for concern. While some people have insecurities, and a tendency to bug their partner's throughout the day, never being able to catch a partner at home or work may indicate an upcoming breakup. If you call your boyfriend at work, and the secretary places you on hold, only to return a few seconds later and announce that he is busy or out to lunch - be suspicious. Moreover, if you girlfriend's roommate is quick to take a message every single time you call, regardless of the time of day - wake up. Because of caller ID, it is easier for people to avoid phone calls. Likewise, if your partner's cell phone always goes into voicemail, he or she is probably trying to send you a subtle message.

Fighting about Little Insignificant Matters. Couples will bicker. Some will bicker a lot. However, if you and your partner begin to fight constantly about every stupid matter, the relationship may be nearing the end. Unhappy couples have a habit of exploding over little issues like 'what restaurant to eat at', or 'who drank the last Coke.' Fear of a breakup keeps them together, yet they use every excuse as a reason to argue. It's their way of masking the real issue, and facing the fact that they no longer want to be together. Similarly, if your partner is constantly picking fights and blowing small matters out of proportion, maybe he or she is attempting to push you toward a breakup.

Partner Constantly Criticizes and Complains. If your partner is becoming bored with your looks, personality, and so forth - he or she may try and change you. For the most part, your partner is not happy in the relationship. Sadly, little can be done to change their mind. Perhaps he or she complains about your weight, clothes, hair, style, make-up, etc. In a nutshell, nothing you do will ever be right. You partner will likely establish a high standard. When you do not measure up to their level of perfection, they will likely end the relationship, and place the blame on you. Don't be fooled by this tactic. Blaming you for the breakup is a lot of easier than acknowledging the real issues.

Partner Has a Habit of Streching the Truth. When it comes to relationships, lying is big no-no. It breaks down the trust, and puts a huge wall between the couple. If a partner has a habit of continually lying about their whereabouts, chances are they are dating or getting close to another person. Perhaps you call during lunch and he or she says they are out to lunch with co-workers. However, you later discover that they were seen at a different location. Obviously, miscommunications arise. Still, if you partner is missing in action a lot, and cannot quickly or convincingly explain their whereabouts, you may be sharing the limelight with another person.

5 signs that it time to move on from your relationship

Romantic relationships can be tough whether they are new or old. In the long run, relationships can be a blessing. At the same time, there are some relationships we find ourselves in that are unhealthy. Here are just a few signs that it may be time to move on from your romantic relationship.

Sign #1 - He/She NEVER calls you by your name. 

Pet names can be sweet and endearing but there may just be a problem if your romantic partner ONLY calls you babe, baby, sweetie, or some other nick name. We all like to be called be these titles because they sound good but if you are in a newer relationships and the person never uses your name it could be a possible sign that they are trying not to mix your name up with someone else's.

Sign #2 - He/She ONLY calls you when something is needed. This can go for all types of relationships. When it comes to a romantic relationship there should be a fair amount of give and take. If you are ALWAYS on the giving end then this may not be the relationship for you. Giving is not always about money. It could be about time or other resources. However, money is often a factor.

Sign #3 - You have the urge to search through his/her things. If you find yourself becoming suspicious of the person you are with, you will need to sit down and gather your thoughts as to why. My mother always told me to NEVER go through a man's things behind his back. She always told me if I ever feel the need to start checking up on him then it is time to move on. In this situation, there is a hang up with either you or the other person. Either way, the relationship is not healthy if you are searching your significant other's phone, emails, and social media accounts.

Sign #4 - He/She is consistently condescending or puts you down. If you are with someone who is not supportive of your goals, have a conversation with them to try and find the root of the issue. If this is the type of person they are from the beginning then do yourself a favor and move on. Unfortunately, there are many people with low self-esteem that don't feel good about themselves unless they make you feel inferior.

Sign #5 - This is VERY SERIOUS - He/She has violent tendencies. Whether male, or female, if the person shows signs of being violent you may need to quickly pack your bag and move on. If your significant other has either broken things, struck you when upset, grabbed you roughly, or is violent sexually, this could have grave consequences for your life. Violence is not something that should be taken lightly. If your significant other has a tendency to get highly upset, yell in your face, or make you feel threatened in any way, you need to move one. Even if you are unsure if the behavior is a violent tendency, it is better to be paranoid and move on, than to end up in the hospital or to lose your life.

The bottom line is: Don't be in a such a rush to find the perfect person that you ignore early signs that the relationship is not healthy. No one is perfect and everyone has faults. Decide what you will or will not tolerate from the beginning. If the differences are something that can be managed then talk them out and make it work. However, if you are in a situation that endangers your mental or physical well being, remove yourself from the situation and patiently wait for the right person to come into your life.

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My husband and half my friends think I'm crazy. One morning a week I run around like a crazy woman cleaning my house. Why? Because the housekeeper could be there any minute!

Here are five reasons I clean my house before my housekeeper comes: 

1. Access. Most housekeepers won't move a whole lot of stuff so they can dust or clean. Picking up all that clutter from my flat surfaces like countertops, tables and floors actually allows her to do a more thorough job of cleaning.
2. Expectations. I believe that if a housekeeper walks into a house that is a mess, his or her efforts in cleaning that house will be marginal. But if the housekeeper always sees a house that's in tip top shape, they know your expectations are high and will react accordingly.

3. Courtesy. No one should have to clean up someone else's nastiness. I wouldn't want my worst enemy to have to clean someone else's nasty toilet rim. For that reason, I wipe mine down before my housekeeper comes.

4. Embarrassment. I believe the condition of a person's home speaks volumes about them and their lives. I would be embarrassed to have anyone see my home a mess - even my housekeeper. I even make my bed before she comes, despite the fact that she will be changing all the bed linens.

5. Respect. Straightening my house before the housekeeper comes shows respect for her and her vocation. It lets her know I respect her as a person as well as what she does for a living.

Here are a few additional tips to help keep your housekeeper happy:

* Leave her a thank you note or call her every once in a while to tell her you appreciate the job she's doing.

* Give her a little gift from time to time. (We have chickens, so I always give my housekeeper some fresh eggs.)

* Send her a card on her birthday and always include her on your holiday card list.

* Give her a holiday bonus.

* If your housekeeper works for an agency, call them occasionally to let them know how good of a job she's doing.

* If she does a stellar job, recommend her to your friends.

* If your housekeeper works for an agency, be sure to tip for a job well done. Agency workers make a minimal hourly wage. They depend on tips for their livelihood.

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Ultimately, the nonverbal cues we present to our dates or significant others add to the overall seduction lure of a woman. Dating is a direct understanding of one's sexual feelings and desires, and using that attraction to successfully 'execute' those desires leading to pleasure and satisfaction.

Most importantly, finding an effective way to use those desires to your own advantage will ultimately lead to continued satisfaction. So work those nonverbal sexual cues and get on with it….

• The key to any relationship is communication. With communication, thoughts and ideas are aimed toward a person's mind. This intimate delivery can lead to immediate attraction. By taking account of what she responds to in the immediate solution, you can better prepare for continued attraction communication techniques.

• Another important aspect is how the words are conveyed with vocal inflictions. Whether with a warm, soothing voice or even in writing, presentation of words to a woman can hook them from the beginning. Women respond to different variations, try them all out and see which has the greatest positive reaction from her face, eyes, perhaps feet?!

• When communicating, facial expressions can also be used to correctly convey the hidden sexual messages you are attempting to transmit. Soft gazes will have any woman interested into what you are saying. Studies have concluded that words can be understood just with one's eyes. The way you look at a person is directly aligned with their mood, whether you make her intrigued, nervous or even interested. Most women appreciate straight stares. If you look someone in the eye, they want to believe what you are telling them, which leads to trust and ultimately, further attraction.

• Another important aspect of communication includes the use of gestures. Whether you motion with your hands to various parts of your body, gestures have meaning of their own. They can be use to reinforce the words you are communicating or even to emphasize your attraction and interest to her. This immediate interest will add to the intrigue and excitement of attraction developing.

• Lastly, it may be old-fashioned, but a simple smile goes far with most women. Smiles give off positive vibes about one's personality, whether they are a friendly, open, or positive individual. These positive attributes will lead her to her contined intrigue and maybe future and/or continued attraction. The art of smiling is a successful endeavor, try it!

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Two people fall in love, wed, and live happily ever after. Sounds ideal. However, in the real world, planning the wedding to involve both sides of the family, including the "steps" and "exes" can be difficult, if not nearly impossible. Excluding some might be hurtful, especially when children are involved. As an etiquette professional, I answer wedding etiquette and planning questions like these every day. Here, I answer the top five most asked wedding questions.

Who is seated where and when?

Steps, exes, and mothers oh my! Encore weddings are increasingly more common. This leads to even more exes and stepfamily on our guest list. Add this into the planning blender and sometimes we get a toxic mix. To avoid a mess, it's best to know where and when to seat "honored guests" like our parents.

If parents are on friendly terms, all may sit in front row. However, how often does that happen? To keep everybody happy, separate and seat them in the proper order.

1. First: Groom's father and stepmother (third row)
2. Second: Bride's father and stepmother (third row)
3. Third: Groom's mother and stepfather (first row)
4. Fourth: Bride's mother and stepfather (first row)

Who foots the bill?

Wallets are a bit thinner these days, which can add even more stress to the wedding planning process. However, the real deal is this: the days of the bride's parents footing the wedding bill are over. Yes, it has been traditional for many years, but things change. Young people have more choices than in the past. If they decide to marry, they should expect to pay for it.

That is not to say that it is wrong to ask if parents might want to contribute. Nevertheless, parents shouldn't be pressured to do so. If they contribute, it is considered a gift with no planning rights attached. Conversely, it is polite to allow parents to plan and invite guests if they have contributed. It is a slippery slope. So, consider this before asking for wedding cash from parents.

How to invite guests to wedding and not the reception?

Since the wedding is the gift-giving event, this would not be polite or fair. To invite some and not all is classifying one group as "good enough" to entertain and others only good enough to give the couple a gift. The set-in-stone rule is that we invite all wedding guests to the entire reception.

How to determine the formality of the wedding?

We begin with time of day and venue. Evening weddings tend to be more formal and if the site is formal, the wedding should be too. Religion plays a part as well. Catholic and Jewish weddings tend to be very formal, although civil ceremonies could also be formal.

• Formal wedding invitations convey formality with heavyweight ivory, cream, or white paper, engraved and written in third person style using classic fonts. For informal weddings, there is more freedom to customize invitations using informal language and style.

Nevertheless, the bride decides formality through her dress choice. If she wants a long beaded embroidered formal gown with veil and cathedral train, she wants and plans a formal wedding.

Bottom line, the couple decides formality by the gown/bridal attire, time of day, and venue. Guests guess formality by the invitation, time of day, and location.

How to inform guests mine is a childfree event?

To exclude children, it is best to include an inner envelope with the wedding invitations and listing only those invited. Unfortunately, guests often ignore this and tend to "invite" their own guests, especially their own children. So, use word of mouth to spread the word as well.

Be prepared for some to abide by these wishes and some not. Those who do just may feel as if you purposely excluded their children, resulting in hurt feelings.

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When the temperature begins to peak, you may be tempted to stay in areas that have the ACs cranked up, but you'll find your days to be predictable and dull. Instead, dress lightly- very lightly- and be adventurous with your significant other.

Stay cool at a water park

Toss on your bathing suit and head for the waves! Find the nearest water park and take a mini vacation with your lover. After going down water slides, lounging on tubes and playfully splashing in the water, you two will be experiencing another type of heat not caused by the sunlight.

Let loose at a concert

Swaying to the music together will take you away from reality for a while and give you a chance to see one another in a different and exciting setting. If you can't seem to find a concert you're interested in, head to your local jazz club or find a restaurant with a nice patio and live music.

Watch a movie under the stars

Many cities have outdoor movies during the summer. Pack a picnic basket with your favorite sandwiches, or maybe just a bottle of wine, and unwind under a tree while being entertained.

Camp out for a night

There's nothing like a spontaneous vacation. If you two happen to have a couple free days together, pack up for the woods. Spend the night talking by the fire and sleeping beneath the moonlight. Look for campsites that have rivers running through so you can cool down during the day. Not into camping? Pitch a tent in the backyard and jump in your cozy bed when you've had enough of the wilderness.

Travel to a nearby town

You know your city, now it's time to explore the smaller towns surrounding you. Don't make a plan before you go, instead spend the day wandering the streets, discovering unique boutiques and eating at quaint eateries.

Engaging in new and exciting activities brings couples closer together. Dinner and a movie will still be waiting for you when winter rolls in.

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Beach themes are a fun and casual way to celebrate your wedding. There are plenty of decorations that can be made to show your personality and match your style.
This article will provide you with detailed instructions on creating five DIY beach themed wedding decorations on a budget.

1. Beachscape Terrarium

For this DIY wedding decoration you will need shells, sand, small pieces of driftwood or stones, and other small beach themed items. You will also need a glass bowl, jar, dish, or candle holder. Fill the dish with the sand to assemble, and add the other beach themed items randomly in the sand. You can also write the bride and grooms initials in the sand as well once it is placed on the table.

2. Shell Candle Centerpieces

Another fun and easy handmade wedding project is shell candles. For this you will need deep shells, wax, and wicks. Simply add the wicks to the inside of the shells and pour melted wax into the candles to create this unique decoration. You will also need a plate, dish, or bowl filled with pebbles, shell pieces, or sand to display your candles in. This wonderful beach themed decoration will amaze your guests.

3. Tin Pail Table Numbers

A whimsical and fun beach themed tin pail place marker is inexpensive to make and simple. You will need mini tin pails and number stickers or paint pens. You can also use sand, pebbles, shells, or candles to fill the pales and use them as favors or centerpieces as well as table numbers. Simply attach the stickers to the pails or handwrite the number on the front of them. You can also add ribbon or little flowers to the handles or brim of the pales for a more DIY touch.

4. Messages in a Bottle Guestbook

This guestbook idea is perfect for a beach themed wedding and will add a magic touch that will be unforgettable. For this decoration you will need a large glass jug or bottle, several pieces of paper, tea bags, twine, scissors, water, and a pen. Start by brewing a few teabags and letting the water cool.

Then rip the paper into smaller note size pieces. Dip them in the tea to age the paper and make it look weathered. Then cut the twine into pieces about six inches long. When the paper is dry, roll it up into a scroll shape and tie with the twine. Remember to tie it into a bow so your guests can open it and write you a note on your big day!

5. Shell Garland

Another budget-friendly idea for your beach wedding is a shell garland. This can be made easily using cord, ribbon, or twine, jewel glue, and shells. Simply cut the garland the appropriate length and use the jewel glue to attach the shells along the length of it. You can also add bows or streamers to the garland from the cord or ribbon used for the length of it.

Making beach themed wedding decorations is an inexpensive way to add your own personal touch to your big day. These ideas are fun for beginners and advanced crafters, and they will help you add style to your wedding while saving money!